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Ivanka Trump Posts Beautiful Post Delivery Photo of Herself and Baby

Ivanka-Trump-DeliveryI admit it, I am a fan of Ivanka Trump. I admire how she can pull off being Donald Trump’s daughter so seamlessly, be a Wharton educated model who seems to also have a mind of her own and avoid the pitfalls of fame and celebrity. I love her style, her composure in the boardroom and in the media crazed public arena. This flawless and gorgeous delivery photo where she is in a hospital gown with no make-up and seemingly unwashed and unstyled hair, she literally glows from the inside out as she cradles her newborn son.

In the photo posted Tuesday to her Tumblr page, Trump holds her newborn son with the accompanying simple caption, “We welcome with love, Joseph Frederick Kushner.”

At last a “natural” delivery photo by a celebrity still in her hospital gown and maternity wristband. It is obvious she has just physically delivered her baby and is both exhausted and proud with a natural inner glow that make-up and airbrushing cannot create.

In today’s Hollywood culture it is expected and lauded for a woman to bounce back to their pre-pregnancy shape in just weeks after delivering their baby. Celebrity birth announcements or Instagram selfies are often airbrushed to achieve perfection. Some celebs avoid the paparazzi altogether to escape the unrealistic pressure, like Kim Kardashian who went M.I.A. for the first time in years for almost three months after delivering daughter North West in June. Fergie, who delivered son Axl in August has still not made an official appearance.

This pressure to achieve a perfect post-baby body has led some to overexert in exercise during and after pregnancy. In September an expectant woman in Los Angeles set off a viral storm with a photo of herself weightlifting a heavy dumbbell while 8 months pregnant. Even if this form of exercise was “safe” for her toned physique it sends out a risky message to expecting moms to follow her lead who may not be in the same mega physical condition while pregnant. Generally it is not a good idea to lift heavy weights while pregnant or perform any extreme physical exercise that your body is not already accustomed to doing.

Even more recently a Sacramento mother of three young children triggered a viral backlash after posting a photo of herself and her washboard abs on Facebook with the accusatory caption “What’s Your Excuse?” Clearly losing weight fast and looking perfect is not an added pressure new mothers need.

We all know it’s hard enough just taking care of the baby and managing a few hours sleep. It is simply not natural to bounce back to pre-baby shape in mere weeks after delivering, nor is it a good idea. Breastfeeding moms in particular need to maintain a very healthy diet and eat enough calories to support their milk production. Any nursing mom knows that feeding the baby around the clock for the first few months is a fulltime job in itself.

So we hope more celebs take the route of Ivanka Trump and reveal more natural looking photos where the emphasis is where it should be, not in showing off but in celebrating the pure joys in life like the arrival of new precious baby.

Stay Away from BPA during Pregnancy

As if we don’t have enough to be worried about during pregnancy, we now have new research to reinforce a suspected health danger, BPA. In pregnancy, exposure to high levels of the BPA chemical may increase risk of miscarriage based on findings from a recent study from the American Society for Reproductive Medicine.

This study found that pregnant women who had the highest levels of bisphenol A, or BPA, in their blood were more likely to miscarry (by 80%) than pregnant women with low levels of BPA.

BPA is commonly used in food packaging and it also used to line cans to prevent corrosion. Even more concerning it is found in plastic baby bottles as well as tableware and food storage containers.

Researchers refer to BPA as a “hormone disrupting chemical” which links to reproductive problems including obesity, diabetes and neurodevelopmental delays. All the more reason to be more cautious with your exposure to BPA during pregnancy.

The BPA chemical is currently banned in Canada and the European Union. The United States banned it from baby bottles and sippy cups last July 2010 but has rejected ban of the chemical altogether.

Small levels of exposure to BPA are reported to be safe and the study has not confirmed causality of BPA exposure to miscarriage as there may be other risk factors involved. However the findings are convincing enough that pregnant women should be extra vigilant about BPA exposure.

To be on the safe side, parents should discard plastic bottles and sippy cups acquired earlier than July 2012 as they were made before the BPA ban on these products. Be sure to throw out plastic bottles that have scratches as they may contain bacteria which increases the release of BPA. Also, limit your children’s exposure to BPA products including the plastic food storage containers with BPA that are used for children’s meals.

Is the Uber-Fit Facebook Mom of 3 Sending the Right Message?

ExcuseA very fit mom of three has recently caused quite a bit of controversy over a photo of herself and her three young children she posted on Facebook. In the photo the 32 year old, Maria Kang, poses in a skimpy workout outfit to reveal washboard abs and an incredibly toned physique. Her three young sons surround her on the floor with ages attached to each, 8 months, 2 years, and 3 years.

However, the part that seems to have set off the viral spiral of this photo is the seemingly accusatory remark that looms over this attractive young family, “What’s your excuse?”

Since we now live in an age of social media where anything seemingly harmlessly posted on Facebook, tweeted or Instagramed is no longer personal and can quickly go viral in a cause an otherwise ordinary person to be an overnight web sensation with good or bad publicity. Maybe this young women did not mean to offend her followers but when a posting like this takes off to the mass public, people feel compelled to share their opinions and emotional reactions to it and the originator of the post/photo.

In my opinion, I do believe it’s commendable that this healthy mom has been able to achieve such an incredibly fit physique after having three young children in less than four years. However she is by far the exception to the average woman’s body after three kids and the caption, “What’s your excuse?”, comes off as accusatory and egotistical rather than inspiring as she says claims she intended it to be. Maybe a better caption should have read “You can do it too!” or “Love the Babies but shed the Baby Fat!”

She probably could have cashed in big on a postpartum exercise DVD or established a new career as a top personal trainer, inspirational speaker, blogger, etc. Instead a remark reading the wrong way seems to just add more shame to the rest of us with young babies, especially those of us who can never seem to kick those last 10 pounds (or more) of post baby weight.

Kang explains, “I wanted to inspire people,” she explains, adding that the “What’s your excuse?” part was simply a borrowed, popular phrase that’s been used in various “fitspiration” campaigns. “I wanted to say, ‘I know you think you don’t have time if you have kids. But if I can do it, you can do it, too.’” Maybe that caption would have translated better…

Kang, of Sacramento, California, is a former pageant queen and fitness competitor who founded the nonprofit Fitness Without Borders in 2007. Ironically, she’s also a recovering bulimic. Kang says she understands why some people reacted so defensively. “I think people struggle with their weight. When you add on being a mother — and the pressures we face to have it all and be everything, including fit — the expectations are so high. I think some moms saw the picture and just said, ‘This is ridiculous.’” But still, she says, “I felt really frustrated. Being called a bad mother and a bad person definitely hurts.”

Although Kang posted this photo a year ago to her Facebook page, it only recently went viral. She recently reposted it to her 72,000 followers along with a “sort of” apology.

“I’m sorry you took an image and resonated with it in such a negative way. I won’t go into details that I struggled with my genetics, had an eating disorder, work full time owning two businesses, have no nanny, am not naturally skinny and do not work as a personal trainer. What I WILL say is this. What you interpret is not MY fault. It’s yours. The first step in owning your life, your body and your destiny is to OWN the thoughts that come out of your own head. I didn’t create them. You created them. So if you want to continue ‘hating’ this image, get used to hating many other things for the rest of your life.”

This apology/response which started off well seemed to end with the same accusatory tone her initial photo caption embodied. Clearly this addendum did not help her case to water down the haters. On the other hand her critics have not been too tactful in their retaliation calling her a “bully” and blaming her for the body shaming problem in the country, etc.

I think the learnings we can take from this are that moms everywhere feel they need support not criticism, especially from other moms. Women have long struggled with body image, multitasking and balancing life with children, work and other demands, let alone working out to achieve their pre-baby body or better. It is encouraging and inspiring to see that it can be done, albeit by a gorgeous beauty queen mom who may be a few years younger than many of us middle aged moms who have to work harder with bodies that are less forgiving after multiple pregnancies. Now I too am going on a bit of a rampage, although hopefully not a hateful one. I do admire someone that can achieve this level of fitness with or without children and marvel even more that a mom of three young children who can accomplish this feat (assuming there’s not a lot of airbrushing going on here).

But again, I really don’t think her caption or tone of apology was appropriate. I also think that in this social media frenzy age we have regular ordinary people becoming celebrities overnight with viral photos and videos. These ordinary people are not used to this level of media attention and are usually totally blindsided and unprepared for the sudden level scrutiny and feedback that follows. Maybe we should think twice before tweeting or Facebook posting something that may sound hurtful or mean. Having babies and taking care of children is an amazing job and a tremendously challenging job that is a lifetime commitment. Most of us are surprised by the level of responsibility and commitment as well as the level of love and attachment we feel for our kids. It’s sometimes hard to find the time or justify the time to take care of ourselves, our health and our bodies. But we should take care of ourselves and we should support and not shame one another.

The Mommy Guilt Syndrome – Good or Bad?

According to many polls, it is surveyed that as many as 94% of moms feel guilty about some aspect of their parenting. This guilt ranges from the amount of time they spend with their kids, the way they feed their kids (breast milk or formula, nutritious or junk food), to the type of diapers they use on their kids (environmentally friendly), yelling at kids, leaving kids at daycare of with another caregiver, the list goes on. There is always something to feel guilty about.

My advice as a Mom of 3 to new and first time parents is that there are no perfect parents and no perfect kids. No matter how perfectly you try to parent your kids they will not be perfect and neither will you. You can try to do your best most of the time. However, there are days when those standards will have to slip.

Today I was home with my sick 4 year old and I am recovering from minor leg surgery from a few days ago. Although I can hobble around a bit, I am supposed to sit still and let the wound heal. My son has plenty of other plans as his fever seemed to have cleared as soon as the School Bus drove past our front door. After a few games of Hedbanz and Lincoln Logs in addition to me hobbling about to fetch snacks, feed the cat and make lunch, I decided to call it a day. My son was treated to his favorite Ninjago Snake Attack Movie that I only very sparingly let him see, not only because these Ninjas are excessively violent at times but mainly because my off the charts snake phobia. But after feeling the twinge or two of pain in my leg and the even more pronounced twinge or two of excessive boredom in my brain from hours of mind numbing games (that I felt guilty I should not be feeling), I threw in the towel and allowed him to indulge in several hours of these movie festivities while I retreated to another room, well away from the attacking snakes video.

Did I feel guilty about this? Not a lot, maybe a little. Am I a bad parent? I don’t think so. If I did this every day, then yes I think that would be detrimental to my child’s development and show a serious lack of effort on my part. But once in a while, when we both really deserve it, sure, no harm done. However, if you were to ask me this question 6 years ago when my oldest son was this age, you would have gotten a very different answer. Yes, I would have felt incredibly guilty if I did anything like this, but this scenario would never have occurred. First we would not have had any movies of this type in our house, nor would we have access to NetFlix and not in a million years could he watch anything other than educational TV, Bob the Builder or The Wiggles (now I am burnt out on all of the above). Second I would have used this time as an opportunity for him to work on his coloring, or for me to home school him on adding and subtracting with string and pegs (yes, I was one of those “Tiger-like” Moms), although he would not learn these skills in school for another year or so. But I am a different parent at 44 and with my third child, who also has a very different temperament than my first child and does not find hours of adding games all that fun after a few minutes, nor do I at this stage. So in this case I think my degree of guilt has subsided with age, experience and number of children.

Many people might mistake me as a deadbeat parent to my youngest child on certain days of the week or hours during the day. I disagree. I actually believe my less stressed out and more laissez faire approach (or less present approach as I am parenting two other children with their own plates full of activities, homework and playdates), has encouraged my son to do more for himself. He knows that Mommy is not hopping around the house to anticipate his every need. So yes, he has a few more sugar snacks than the other two would have at his age (they had none other than fruit!). He has a little more TV time that usually is not educational and I do not drill him on reading and math all the time (although his siblings like to try their hand at homeschooling him from time to time with varying levels of success or dispute, depending on the day). I do however make sure he is safe, cared for, loved and feed every day which I think is the primary responsibility of any parent.

On the flip side my youngest is remarkably helpful and self-sufficient. He helps me with many chores, loves to help with cooking/mixing and baking things, he helps with the dishes, cleans his room, vacuums and dusts, dresses himself, makes his bed and is overall a very confident kid, proud of what he can do like his big brother and sister (and sometimes better). Maybe he has a few more scrapped knees and maybe his outfits don’t always coordinate perfectly, but I am pretty sure he will be able to do his own laundry and cook for himself by the time he goes off to college as he’s well on his way to mastering those skills now. Plus I can daydream that one day his future wife, my future daughter in law, will profusely thank me for raising such a self-sufficient guy while I nod knowingly.

On the other hand, guilt is not always a bad thing if it is used wisely and in proper context. Guilt is an internal alert system our body has to tell us that something is potentially wrong and we need to address it. It is a sign our body uses to encourage us to get on the right track and change a behavior, or make a different choice. Maybe we shouldn’t trust a particular caregiver. Maybe Johnny does need to eat healthier and cut back on the junk food. Yes we should watch what we put into our bodies when we are pregnant and stop dangerous habits like smoking or drinking too much. But we also have our common sense to override that guilt and cut ourselves some slack from time to time (not in smoking), but in most of our parenting decisions. Overall parents who apply love, consistency, their best instincts and joy to the job are on the right track any day of the week. We all need our cheat days every now and then to recharge. As long as our baby/child is safe and well cared for, I think we can cut ourselves some slack from time to time.

More Dangers To Smoking During Pregnancy

If you were looking for new inspiration for better health habits during pregnancy, the latest research on smoking during pregnancy should give you plenty of motivation to quit that habit fast. A new study published by the American Journal of Psychiatry Oct 1st suggests there is an association between tobacco smoke exposure in the womb and bipolor disorder in those offspring once they are young adults.

Researchers looked at 79 people with bipolor disorder and 654 people without the condition who were born between 1959 and 1966. People born to mothers who smoked while pregnant had twice the risk of developing bipolor disorder as young adults. Bipolor disorder is a mental illness which causes extreme mood swings. It’s symptoms are not usually noticeable until late teens to early adulthood.

This is the first study to show this connection between smoking and mental illness. Earlier studies did show that smoking contributed to other health concerns in newborns and children including low birth weight and attention problems.

We all know that smoking is bad for our health and bad for our babies health both inside and outside of the womb. We now know that it is also a concern for a child’s mental health as they mature into adulthood and beyond.

Sucking Your Child’s Pacifier Is Not A Bad Thing!

Most parents have done this on the sly, but now you can do it openly, go ahead and suck that baby pacifier that fell to the ground before popping back into your baby’s mouth. Most feel guilty for not boiling the pacifer or trashing it. However, that parental instinct to just use your own spit is really the best thing you can do for your baby . A new study tells us that this practice will actually help reduce your baby’s chance of allergies later on.

“It’s really an interesting study, because it supports the theory of the hygiene hypothesis,” said Dr. Samuel Friedlander, an allergy specialist at University Hospital in Cleveland. “It’s a theory that state that our world is too clean. The immune system is like an army, and if the army doesn’t have anything to fight – like germs – it fights allergens.”

The study showed that toddlers were less likely to develop eczema and asthma if their parents were shared by their parent as the saliva on pacifiers appeared to help promote a bacterial diversity and stimulate the child’s immune system. In the same way, babies delivered vaginally benefitted from increased exposure to bacteria in the birth canal as newborns.

Of course there are times when this practice can be detrimental to a child’s health, such as when a parent is sick, has a virus or cold sores. However for the healthy parent it appears sharing a little saliva on a pacifier or utensil may be helpful to your child’s immune system.

Dad Deliver’s Baby in Sam’s Club Parking Lot

If your husband or significant other ever rolls his eyes at attending yet another birthing class with you, then you might want to mention this newsworthy story to him.

In Sacramento the other day, Josephine Rosales went into labor while in a Sam’s Club parking lot. As this was the couple’s fifth child, it appears her husband, Fritz Rosales, had some idea what to do. However delivering at Sam’s was not the plan from the get-go.

While en route to the hospital while Josephine was in advanced labor, they needed to stop for gas (note to expecting couples: remember to always have enough gas in the tank in your final months of pregnancy). Then once they were on their way they had wait for a slow moving 90 something car train.

Fritz told CBS-Sacramento, “Then, just as soon as that train cleared the crossing, another train came along the same track. I was like, ‘Are you serious?’”

At this point the anxious couple realized they would never make it to the hospital in time. “The first thing that came to my mind was Sam’s Club,” Fritz said.

Fritz pulled into the Sam’s Club parking lot and dialed 911. He told the ambulance where they were and then proceeded to deliver his baby girl.

Fritz said he panicked at first as the baby wasn’t breathing but then as soon as she started crying, they know that everything would be OK. The baby, who they named Alexander, is confirmed to be healthy and the mom, Josephine, is also doing well.

Olian Maternity Yellow Flowers Nursing Pajamas

Here’s a new nursing pajama set from Olian Maternity.

It’s a 4 piece set that comes with a robe, sleeveless top, and matching baby sleeper. The robe and pants come in matching blue, purple and red flower pattern.They are light-weight and made out of super soft cotton.

The sleeveless top is a lemon yellow color as is the matching sleeper. It would be really surprise your hospital guests to see you and your new born in matching outfits!

The nursing tops has easy access by just pulling to the side. The bottoms feature an adjustable draw string to hold in place.

It retails only for $114 and comes in sizes from XS to XL.

Kerri Walsh Jennings Welcomes Daughter

Congratulations to Volleyball player Kerri Walsh Jennings and husband Casey Jennings on the birth of their third child, daughter Scout Margery.

The three time Olympic gold medalist is happy to have a girl to join her two sons Joey, 3 and Sundance, 2.

“Our family feels so blessed to have this beautiful new addition,” says Kerri. “We will cherish our lil Scout and can’t wait to watch her as she grows in this world alongside her sweet big brothers.”

Walsh Jennings revealed after the 2012 London Olympic games that she was unknowingly five weeks pregnant with her daughter when she and partner Misty May-Treanor were in the final showdown week of the Olympics. “When I was throwing my body around fearlessly, and going for gold for our country, I was pregnant.” She told Matt Lauer later.

Kerri also admits this last pregnancy was the hardest one of all. “This little one is kicking my butt!” she said. “The first two were pretty easy, but with this one, I’m sick every day.”

Just goes to show us that even the best Olympic athletes can feel physically challenged by morning sickness!

We wish all the best to Kerri and her growing family of five!

Shakira Talks About Challenges of Being a New Mom

New mama Shakira looks fabulous just months after giving birth to son, Milan. However the 36 year old first time mom recently revealed that dropping the pounds to be in shape to promote “The Voice” was extremely stressful and difficult.

“I know I had to come back here to do “The Voice” two months after I had delivered a baby. I didn’t have my four months of maternity like every woman on Earth has. I’m not trying to complain, but it’s been a process full of challenges.”

Shakira went on to add that the pressure to shed the weight for our generation is much more intense than it has been for previous generations of women. She said, “I think that our mothers and grandmothers weren’t under the pressure women of today are after delivering a baby. My dad says there’s nothing better than meat over the bones. So he likes my mom a little chubby. She was never under the pressure to have to get to her old weight – and she never did.”

I’m sure that the pressure as a rock star is even more intense than the pressure most women face. However the example we see in the media of super swelte new moms like Beyonce and Shakira just months after giving birth, can make us all feel a little inadequate. So, it’s a nice reality check to hear that it was extremely challenging for them as well, even with all the dieticians/chefs, personal trainers and nannies at their call.

Shakira was also very honest about the ups and downs of new motherhood to a newborn. She told US Weekly, “I didn’t expect babies to need so many diapers! Nobody told me they needed to be changed so often! I mean he’s a great, great, baby. He’s an easy one, I think. But nobody told me it would be this hard. It takes a lot of energy from you.”

I always admire a star that says it like it is! It also shows that she is putting in the effort as a new mom and not just token baby carrying on a shopping photo op excursion. Being a mom is hard work, but it is also so worth it!